how to be strong in difficult phases of relationship

Here are the 5 stages of a relationship-

The Romance Stage

The Power Struggle Stage

The Stability Stage

The Commitment Stage

The Co-Creation or Bliss Stage

The romance stage can be an easy task to climb the stairs of marriage but after this stage the real struggle begins such as a new baby, new job or retirement, in which some people break up or some go together forever because they made themselves strong enough to handle the situation. So, here are some tips to save your relationship in a better way.

Acknowledge the situation

Recognize that you’re in a crisis or challenging situation.  Don’t deny, disregard or minimize what’s happening. Listen to each other more carefully, and show more curiosity about each other’s perspective, experience and needs.

Discuss about it

Spend some time together; discuss your present or upcoming needs to resolve. If you feel that there could be a problem in a decision made by your spouse then stand with him/her and explain the real cause of worry. This will increase the trust and respect in your relationship. Next time while deciding he/she will surely ask to you.

Don’t be opinion maker

You might wonder why your sex drives doesn’t match your partners, or why theirs lessened, or why you annoy or anger your partner more now. You might make assumptions and opinion about your partner, and your expectations also tend to increase form each other. When these assumptions and opinions differ in real life, it might leave you feeling ecstatic or depressed. What you need to do is hold on! The best is yet to come – even if you see a drop in your love relationship. Keep making the efforts and hope for the best.

Commitment

This is what most couples refer to as being “comfortable,” but that doesn’t mean the romance goes away! Warm feelings of infatuation you had in the beginning of your relationship return and it’s easy to remember why you started dating your partner. You might be struck by how attractive your date is or how kind they are. Positive qualities they had before will become more desirable and you will feel confident in your decision to date this person. This is the phase where relationships are strengthened and couples make a conscious decision to commit to one another.

Admit when you’re wrong

Apologize when you behave badly. It offers tools and tips for better relationships. This is in stark contrast to unhealthy couples “who rationalize or deny their hurtful or disrespectful behaviors.”  Sometimes you should say sorry even you are not wrong; at that time think what is more important, “your spouse” or that “mistake”.

Cope effectively

Healthy couples take breaks from the difficult situation. They make time to have fun together. They pursue healthy distractions, such as taking walks and watching funny movies. They also have a broader perspective and adopt an attitude of “this, too, shall pass. They see situation as a small piece in the puzzle of their lives and long-term relationship.

Touch each other

It’s amazing how much touching helps to calm people in times of crisis. The literal physical support can be so important.